Aug 28, 2019
In this day and age, there’s no lack of misinformation out there
regarding sex and intimacy, shaping our lives and the world we live
in. So, on today’s In Your Pants podcast, Dr. UC and I bust common
sex myths and fairy tales around intimacy.
Here are the cliff notes from today’s episode:
- Intimacy is not just this feminine thang
- “It’s about being seen and heard”
- Sexy time is not usually the issue, it’s the intimacy and the
underlying relationship
- Judgement is a human thing but the underlying issue is being
aware of our judgements of others but most importantly the
judgements that we have about ourselves
- Sex is not porn, it’s entertainment, but yet it compromises a lot
of the education around sex and intimacy
- Porn is an incomplete picture of how sex and gender work
- “It’s an incomplete picture of life” - Dr. UC
- Expectations are a buzz kill in the bedroom
- Sex is about people experiencing pleasure
- Normalizing common sexual experiences like performance
anxiety
- When life happens, your sexual taste buds and hunger fluctuate
and that’s ok, it’s a normal human experience
- Sex positive body vibes and how genital body image is a factor in
our sexual experiences and intimacy
- Orgasm is an experience not a mechanical process
- “The peak of sexual pleasure in that moment” - Dr. UC definition
bomb 💣
- Orgasm lives on a spectrum and is different for every person
- You are NOT responsible for your partner’s O
- Women and pleasure versus men and pleasure historically
speaking
- Context matters!
- Grief with pelvic pain and how it impacts intimacy, sense of
control, and spontaneity
- The average sexual encounter lasts 6 minutes #truthbomb
- How you can comfortably open up to your partner about your sexual
curiosities in a gentle and safe way